Should Weddings Come With a Warning Label? – Part II

In my last post I lamented that many people faced with a divorce would have benefited from a bit of education on divorce laws even before they got married. In this post I continue down the aisle…. more things people should know before they utter “I Thee wed.”

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In October 2010, New York became a “no fault” state, joining the ranks of the other 49 states of the Union.

In large part this legislation was strongly supported by the many judges in the State who hear divorce cases. No fault divorce legislation was symbolic of  the philosophy shared by divorce judges nationwide. Judges did not want to hear about the reasons a couple is divorcing. Whether the cause is serial infidelity, a drinking or drug problem, or because he/she leaves the toilet seat up or the toothpaste cap off, they do not want to hear about it. Judges want to focus on dividing marital assets and liabilities, fixing support and making sure the children are provided for. If a spouse was unfaithful, a slob, financially irresponsible or as cheap as Jack Benny, the Court’s remedy is: get a divorce. If you put up with it for years, the Court’s response:  “Why didn’t you come to see me sooner?” In short, don’t expect the Court to compensate a spouse more because they have been the victim of a less than stellar bride or groom. They won’t.

New York’s definition of a marital asset is very broad and includes things that might not occur to you.

How uncommon is this: Couple gets married. One spouse works one, two, three or four jobs to support the family while the other spouse goes to school to get a degree, a license or some other special training so he or she can have a career and presumably make a better living. New York calls a degree, license or special training  earned during a marriage “enhanced earnings capacity”.  If time goes by and a divorce comes along, what happens to that degree, license or special training? In 49 states, the answer is: nothing. In New York, the court’s view this enhanced earning capacity as a marital asset, which can be valued (usually using an expert) and then divided as part of equitable distribution. For example, if a wife works so her husband can go to medical school and become a doctor and the parties later divorce, the value of the husband’s medical license and medical degree are considered marital assets and are subject to equitable distribution. This is true even if the husband has just graduated, with only school loans to show for his years of training. Enhanced earning capacity has been applied to law and medical degrees/licenses, securities brokers licenses, real estate sales licenses and even to an opera singer whose career took off during the marriage.

Wedding gifts are marital property if the gift is to both the bride and the groom.

The rule in New York is that gifts from third parties to a single spouse are separate property (gifts between spouses, however, are marital property). However, New York has a strong presumption that property received during a marriage is marital property and a party claiming separate property has the burden of  proving it.  So…. Wedding gifts (or even gifts received during the marriage) are presumed to be marital property, unless the party claiming the property is separate property can prove it. I guess that means you have to save the card! More about gifts next time.

To be continued…. Join me next time for more on the nuances of nuptials in New York.

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Should Weddings Come With A Warning Label?

Donald Wall, Esq., PhD | Before You Walk Down the Aisle in New YorkAs a divorce lawyer for more years than I would like to admit, I’ve had occasion to have many new client consultations with people considering or being faced with a divorce. These consultations usually take an hour and a half to two hours and are spent covering the waterfront of New York matrimonial law in general and as related to the client’s circumstances. I enjoy these consultations because they are opportunities for me to answer questions and to explain New York’s view of marriage and divorce. I’d like to think that at the end of the meeting, if nothing else, the client leaves my office more educated on the law, process and procedure of a New York divorce or family law matter.

Following these consultations, it has often occurred to me that, somewhere along the way, someone should have sat down with the couple before they walked down the aisle, to give them some guidance on divorce law so that they can enter marriage with their eyes wide open. Heck, if you go to Disney World and wait an hour on a line to get on a popular ride, you are often warned that the ride involves bumps and gyrations and is not for the squeamish. I’ve yet to see a similar warning sign anywhere near a church, temple or catering hall.

While I like to think of myself as at least a bit romantic, let’s face it: most statistics point to the simple fact that between 40 and 50% of all marriages end in divorce or separation. That percentage increases if either spouse was previously married or even if they had parents who divorced. As was printed once in the Paul Harvey News, if there is a 50-50 chance that something can go wrong, 9 times out of 10 it will. So the simple fact is that many marriages that start out happy will not end that way.

While not at all all-encompassing, it occurs to me it might be helpful for folks about to tie the knot to get a bit of an education before exchanging vows. Here’s what I think people contemplating marriage need to know before the rice flies (just in case):

  • New York views marriage as both an emotional and financial partnership. You don’t want a financial partner? You have two options: (1) enter into a prenuptial agreement; or (2) don’t get married.
  • New York assumes assets or liabilities acquired after the parties marry are “marital” and the law doesn’t really care how things are “titled” when a couple splits.

This means that if a divorce proceeding is commenced down the road, the party arguing that assets are not marital and are “separate property” and are not subject to the divorce court’s slicing and dicing, will have to prove it. More on this in a later post, but proving something is separate property is not always easy, or even possible, even if “everybody knows” it’s separate property.

So if you buy a house in a single spouse’s name and a divorce comes along, the house is considered marital property. Likewise, If you open up a bank account during the marriage, regardless of whose name is on it or who funded the account, it is presumed to be marital.

If you own something before you get married, it is generally deemed separate property, but if you add value to it during the marriage, or if you use marital funds to maintain or improve it, the increased value may be viewed as being marital….

  • When a couple gets married in New York, marital assets and liabilities are divided “equitably”, which may or may not mean “equally”.

Forget about everything you may have heard at the bar, nail salon or gym, the Courts don’t always divide things in half, even in a long-term marriage. You want equal division? Sign a prenuptial agreement or make sure to get divorced in a community property state. In New York, the Court has a significant amount of discretion on how it divides marital property.

To be continued…. Join me next time for more on the nuances of nuptials in New York.

Donald Wall, Esq., PhD

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Giving New Meaning to Client “Relations”

Donald Wall, Esq., PhD | Giving New Meanings to the Term "Relations" OK, this one may not come up that often, but just in case it does….

I was reading an article today in the American Bar Association Journal Law News about a Minnesota lawyer who admittedly had an affair with a divorce client. This alone raises issues, at least in New York, but this particular lawyer apparently felt either his legal or sexual talent allowed him to also bill for his time for “meetings” actually spent horizontally with the client.

The lawyer in question lost his law license “for an indefinite period”.

It’s not clear if the attorney was suspended merely for having sexual relations with his client (the lawyer in question was male) or for charging for his time while doing so (see, “chutzpa”). Other than the prurient character of the story, I write about this simply to highlight that in New York, potential clients will be happy/sad/disappointed/depressed/thrilled/relieved (you choose those that apply) to learn that lawyers are prohibited from requiring or demanding sexual relations from any person (spouses are excluded). Begging, apparently, remains totally legal.

In addition, for those of us in the matrimonial field, with one exception, attorneys are prohibited from entering into sexual relations with a client during the course of the lawyer’s representation of that client (even assuming they don’t charge for their time). The fact that this prohibition only extends to lawyers handling domestic relations matters perhaps says something about the matrimonial bar.

The exception, you ask?  Lawyers and clients already having sexual relations prior to the initiation of the client-lawyer relationship are free to continue to carry on (which proves the maxim, timing is everything). Lawyers subject to this exception may wish to include an acknowledgment in their retainer agreement that the parties have been engaging in sexual conduct prior to the retention. (Kidding!)

So the take-away here is that if a lawyer and client feel that attraction during the representation, finish the case before acting on anything or find a new client (or lawyer).

As always, comments on this blog are welcome, however, please resist the temptation to post comments about lawyers/clients getting screwed, filing versus dropping briefs, stiff penalties and motions to withdraw.

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The Black, the White, the Gray and…Discretion

I feel part of my job as a divorce attorney is to educate my clients, but sometimes they come to me thinking they are already educated…. some are… some aren’t.

Sometimes divorce “education” is attained at the barber shop, hair salon, the local saloon or at the Home Depot or supermarket waiting to get checked out. Some of it is accurate, some if it is, how do I put this……. incomplete, if not downright wrong.

You wouldn’t tell your doctor how to perform your appendectomy just because your BFF or the local bartender told you about theirs. Yet many people contemplating divorce do “research” before they see a divorce attorney, relying on the experiences of others – or worse still, what others have heard.

I frequently tell people that it usually takes an hour and a half to two hours for an initial divorce consultation, which allows me to cover the BASICS of what a divorce entails in New York and to BEGIN the process of converging the client’s facts and circumstances with the law of New York. As part of this process, I explain that there are some “black and white” issues that will almost never cause any uncertainty. There are also some gray areas, where different courts have come out with different results and where there is no accepted legal precedent that would allow for a reasonably certain prediction of an outcome. Making matters even more complicated, in addition to black/white and gray, is another factor… discretion. Put simply, it’s an issue where it’s up to the Judge to decide. It’s built into the process and it can be scary and impossible to predict. I’ll give you two examples.

There is no question in New York that absent a prenuptial agreement, if one spouse starts and builds a business during a marriage, and the marriage heads towards a divorce, the business will be considered marital property subject to appraisal and distribution between the two spouses. The $64,000 question is, “How much will I get?” That is where discretion comes in. It’s my job to explain that unless the parties can agree on a division, it will ultimately be up to the judge to decide based upon a number of factors and circumstances, as well as the judge’s own personal predilections. At this point in the conversation the client will ask, “Well what do you think will happen?” and my response will be, “It depends….” and we will review the various factors that are considered.

Even more difficult to predict is how a judge will rule in a custody dispute. There are many books, articles and authorities on how to raise children, but there is no universally accepted right way or wrong way.

What time do you make the children go to sleep? How involved should you be in making sure your child does his homework? Do they get a cell phone and when? Football or Jiujitsu? Should they be allowed to play video games and for how long?

Judges will be the first to admit that there is no accepted formula that they can apply that makes it easy to determine custody and in recent years the courts have come to accept that a custody determination is not scientific and should not even be based upon the opinion of a mental health professional. I have seen judges literally plead with divorcing couples to reach a custody settlement because they didn’t want to have to make a decision about something so personal as other people’s children, whom they have likely never met. Yet, inevitably, a prospective client will ask me at the first interview what the outcome will be.

My point here is that anyone contemplating a divorce needs to get educated about the process, and the best place is to start with a knowledgeable family law attorney. The client should seek to objectively assess the issues in his or her case with the help of their attorney and approach their case mindful of the gray areas as well as the court’s discretion. Once properly educated, a client is in a much better position to make informed decisions along the way and hopefully resolve their case as cheaply and quickly as possible.

OK, everyone out there thinking about a divorce…. you need to get educated. You have some homework to do!

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Holiday Musings

Ah, chestnuts roasting on an open fire…roast turkey, holiday sales, Christmas decorations, Hanukkah candles, Kwanzaa celebrations, shopping, shopping, shopping…..

Donald Wall, Esq., PhD  |  Holiday Musings

In case you haven’t heard, the holidays are approaching. I don’t know about you, but for me this time of year can be a bit daunting. December rushes forward. There is an expectation of family, warmth, good cheer, excitement, and then there’s reality…. Long lines, shopping, pressure, anxiety, sometimes even some depression…. And that’s for those of us who are doing “OK”.

For people going through a divorce or even contemplating one, every negative emotion seems to become magnified. Everything hurts a bit more, cuts a bit deeper, seems a bit more fleeting. I don’t have all the answers, but I thought I might use this post to offer some suggestions on weathering the storm. If you’re feeling great and are brimming with the holiday spirit, maybe forward this to someone less fortunate. Get out there and enjoy! However, for those of us a quart or more down on the holiday cheer, here are some ideas on how to handle the holidays:

Fight for some “alone time”.  What’s that you say? Try to be alone? I thought the holidays were all about family and loved ones? Why would anyone want to be alone? Well, contrary to popular belief, being alone represents an opportunity to relax. To think, to plan, to take stock.

Take a blank sheet of paper and divide it into four quadrants and write “Holidays 2012″ on top. One for “the positives”, one for “things to do”, one for “bad stuff” and one for “resolutions”. Carry it with you between now and New Year’s. When you think of something, write it down. I find this helps put things in perspective, but most important save this to look back at this time next year. Things that may seem vitally important now may seem like big nothings a year from now. I find this really gives perspective to life.

If you are in a bad marriage and are thinking of getting out, the holidays will usually make everything seem worse. That’s OK as long as you know what to expect. The decision to leave a marriage should not be made based solely on the holidays, but sometimes the holidays do make things clearer. We are all entitled to some degree of happiness and if you aren’t getting yours, perhaps the holidays will be just that kick in pants that will spur you to do something about it. That’s a positive, even if the prospect of a divorce brings to bear so many troubling issues. If your holidays make things clearer, take action. Get educated and think things through. Consult an attorney. Move things forward if that’s what feels right. Continue reading

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Divorce Alphabet Soup

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Are Divorce Acronyms Making You Send Out an SOS?

Just like texting, a New York divorce has its own particular set of acronyms and abbreviations. Some clients may find it frustrating or intimidating to navigate this “alphabet soup”. So, FYI, I wanted to give you a short list, ASAP, of a few of the abbreviations you may, IMHO, hear in your divorce proceeding and define what they mean: 

  • ED – “Equitable Distribution”  New York’s way of dividing marital property and marital liabilities.
  • NWS or SNW – “Net Worth Statement” or “Statement of Net Worth” This is the financial statement that is required in all New York divorce actions. Essentially each party is required to list their monthly expenses and monthly income, as well as their assets and liabilities. Each party must sign attesting to the accuracy of the information they provide.
  • DOC – “Date of Commencement”. This refers to the date the divorce action was commenced. In New York, a divorce action is commenced by the filing of a Summons with Notice or Summons and Complaint. This is an important date because certain automatic stay provisions come into effect upon filing. Many valuation issues are also determined by the Date of Commencement.
  • DOM – “Date of Marriage” This would be the date the parties were first married. Some people have a formal wedding and an informal marriage ceremony. The Date of Marriage is the first date of the two.
  • RJI  - “Request for Judicial Intervention”  An “RJI” is simply a form  required by the Courts to have a case assigned to a judge.  It lists the parties and certain relevant information on the case as well as the nature of the request for judicial intervention. There is a fee for filing an RJI.
  • PC – “Preliminary Conference” A preliminary conference is the first time the parties appear in court with their attorneys to meet the judge assigned to their case. At the conference the parties outline those issues that are agreed upon and those issues which are in dispute and need to be determined either by the parties or by the court at trial. In the event a party brings a motion at the commencement of the case, most judges will order that the preliminary conference take place at the same time the motion is heard.
  • NOI – “ Note of Issue” Another court form which a party, usually the plaintiff, must file in order to place a divorce action on the court’s trial calendar. Judges in New York are under pressure to move their cases forward expeditiously and will generally give an outside date for a party to file the NOI, which means that all prior proceedings, including all discovery proceedings must have completed before the NOI is filed.

These are only some of the most common combination of letters you’re likely to find in the Alphabet Soup of New York Divorce Law. What are some of the other acronyms you’re struggling to understand?

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14 Ways to Minimize Attorney Fees in Your Divorce Case

If you're worried about the cost of your divorce, there are ways to minimize what your attorney will cost.Lawyers charge hundreds of dollars an hour to represent their clients in a divorce action.  However, the total legal fees incurred in your case are only partially controlled by you or your attorney.  Your spouse and his or her attorney have a lot to do with what the ultimate legal fees will be.  From a divorce attorney’s perspective, I’d like to share some tips that I have for reducing your legal fees.

1) Read Your Retainer Agreement with Your Attorney

In New York, every attorney is required to enter into a written retainer agreement with their client before beginning their representation in a family law matter, including divorce.  In many respects, the retainer agreement and what it says is controlled by statute.  That is not to say, however, that you shouldn’t read and understand it.

To paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, “A lawyer’s time is his stock and trade.”  Continue reading

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So What’s Marital Property?

What's the difference between martial and separate property when getting a divorce?New Yorkers going through a divorce are frequently bombarded with terminology which sometimes can be overwhelming.  However, since you may be going through a divorce or know someone who is, it’s important to become conversant in the language of divorce.

The difference between “marital” and “separate” property is a basic concept in New York divorces.  Marital property is roughly defined as “all property obtained by either spouse during the marriage.”  Separate property is a bit trickier to define, but includes property owned prior to marriage that has not been combined somehow with marital property.  Examples include inheritances received (before or during the marriage), gifts received from third parties (i.e., not from your spouse), and awards for pain and suffering from a personal injury action.  Let’s break it down.

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How Do I Fill Out My Net Worth Statement? – Part V – The Final Chapter

A Statement of Net Worth (a/k/a “net worth statement”) is required to be exchanged in all contested divorce actions and in some uncontested divorce actions as well.  In Part I, I gave you some tips on how to fill out the “family data” and “expenses” section of the form.  In Part II, I gave you my thoughts on completing the “income” section.  In Part III, I took you through the “assets” portion of the form.  In Part IV, we moved on to completing the “liabilities” section of the form.  In this post we’re in the home stretch, the final portion of the Statement of Net Worth, composed of “support requirements”, “counsel fee requirements”, “accountant and appraisal fee requirements” and “other data”.

Once you have completed the liabilities section of your net worth statement it’s time to take a step back and reunite with your attorney.  The rest of the net worth statement gives you the opportunity to inform the court of the marital financial “status quo” (defined as “the existing state of affairs”) with respect to support and legal fees being paid or needed to be paid.  It also gives you an opportunity to tell the court what you think you will need to be done in the future, at least with respect to the economic aspect of your case.  Let’s take the sections one-by-one.

SUPPORT REQUIREMENTS – In this section you are stating what’s going on now regarding support (if you used the date your divorce action was commenced as the date for your assets and liabilities, you should still use “now” for this section). Continue reading

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How Do I Fill Out My Net Worth Statement? – Part IV – Liabilities

A Statement of Net Worth is required to be exchanged in all contested divorce actions and in some uncontested divorce actions as well.  In Part I I gave you some tips on how to fill out the “family data” and “expenses” section of the form.  In Part II, I gave you my thoughts on completing the “income” section.  In Part III, I took you through the “assets” portion of the form.  In this post, we move on to completing the “liabilities” section of the form.

In completing the liabilities part of the net worth statement, you are trying to provide a snapshot of your debts (whether or not your spouse is also responsible for them).  Debts come in several shapes and sizes and the form is designed to capture them all.

SOME SUGGESTIONS: When listing liabilities, make things easy for everyone.  Review your checkbook and bank statements to jog your memory.  Be on the lookout for automatic debits from your bank accounts and credit cards.  Take the time to list the full legal name of the creditor (i.e., “Capital One VISA credit card”, not just “VISA”), the address of the creditor, the account number, in whose name the account is (Yours alone? You and your spouse?), the amount of the original debt and the date you purchased it (where the account was used to purchase a single item), the purpose of the purchase, the monthly payment (if applicable), and amount of the current debt as of the date you are using to complete your net worth statement (or amount in the account statement closest in time to that date).  It’s a good idea to write “$[fill in amount of debt] as of [fill in the date from the statement you are using]”.   Continue reading

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